For the wedding
of Jacob Chicos and Staci Sexton
LOVE COMMITS TO THE GOOD OF
ANOTHER.
1 CORINTHIANS 13:4-8a
In
the name + of Jesus.
It is probably no surprise that the
readings for your wedding focus on love.
What else would be the emphasis of a wedding? But what kind of love are you thinking of? Is it the sweep-you-off-your-feet kind of
love that you see in a movie?
Maybe. Is it the kind of romantic
scene that you see in a jewelry commercial?
Perhaps. Is it unbridled passion
which carries you away? Well, certainly
not during the ceremony. While such
visions of love sound thrilling, they are also temporary. No one can sustain the sweep-me-off-my-feet
feelings continually.
If you are interested in a love that
persists and remains steadfast, there is only one place you can look. You look to Jesus Christ whose love for you
is not driven by emotions or romance.
Jesus’ love is a commitment he makes for your good. Love commits to the good of another.
This is the commitment that our Lord wants
you to have toward all people. When God
said, “Love your neighbor as yourself” (Mark 12:31), he was saying that
you should seek the good of all people, no matter who they are or what they
have done. Jesus said, “Love your
enemies. Do good to those who hate you”
(Luke 6:27). Yes, even them. Love commits to the good of another.
Of course, you are not marrying your
enemy. You have developed an affection
for one another which has led to a desire to be united in marriage. The command to “Love your neighbor as
yourself” becomes a daily commitment.
For who is a closer neighbor than the one you are married to? You will see each other daily, talk with each
other daily, work with each other daily, and wake up to each other daily. If you are getting married, you should regard
all of that as good stuff. Marriage
provides you with a unique opportunity to commit to the good of each other.
But you are also sinners. You will see each other daily, but you may
see things that annoy you. You will talk
to each other daily, but sometimes those words will be sarcastic and biting. You will work with each other daily, but you
will also discover that your priorities do not always line up. You will wake up to each other daily, and you
may end up restarting an argument that you did not finish the night
before. In short, you will sin against
one another. If love is all about
feelings, it may fade quickly. But St.
Paul tells you that the love you are to have is different. “Love is patient. Love is kind. …It is not selfish. It is not irritable. It does not keep a record of wrongs. …It bears all things, …endures all
things. Love never comes to an end” (1
Corinthians 13:4-5,7-8). The love
you are to have is not merely an emotional reaction. Love is the policy. Love is the commitment to the good of the
other.
So, you will prove to each other that you
are sinners. And since you deal with
each other more than anyone else, it is likely that you will end up sinning
against each other more than anyone else.
Not that you want to, but you probably will. So, what hope is there for sinners? Our hope is found in the one whose love for
us is pure and constant. Our hope is
found in the one whose love for us is sacrificial and unconditional. Our hope is found in the Savior who lived and
died so that we can be pardoned of all sin.
Jesus demonstrates a committed love to you. The love that Jesus Christ has for you is
spelled out by St. Paul. In fact, you
can replace the word “love” in our reading with Jesus and it proves to be
true. “[Jesus] is patient. [Jesus] is kind. [Jesus] does not envy. [He] does not brag. [He] is not arrogant. [He] does not behave indecently. [He] is not selfish. [He] is not irritable. [He] does not keep a record of wrongs. [He] does not rejoice over unrighteousness but
rejoices with the truth” (1 Corinthians 13:4-6). Jesus’ love is a commitment to your eternal
good.
Everything Jesus did for you and still
does for you is for your eternal good.
St. Paul wrote that Jesus Christ “loved the church and gave himself
up for her to make her holy, by cleansing her with the washing of water in
connection with the Word. He did this so
that he could present her to himself as a glorious church, having no stain or
wrinkle or any such thing, but so that she would be holy and blameless”
(Ephesians 5:25-27). The beauty and
glory of the Church comes from Jesus Christ.
He is the heavenly Groom who exalts his beloved Bride. Jesus is committed to the good of the
Church. He lived and died for you to give
you what is good for you—forgiveness of sins, new life, and eternal salvation.
Love commits to the good of another. The Bible calls for a groom to love his bride
as Christ loved the Church. Jake, you
are called to love Staci with a sacrificial, fully-committed devotion for her good. In response, the bride submits to her groom. The Church is not degraded by submitting to
Christ; she is exalted. So, Staci, your
submission to Jake is not degrading. Your
willing submission means that you receive good things from him, his provision,
and his protection. You get to support
him as he gives himself for your good.
In this way, you commit to the good of each other. The love between Christ and his Church is
reflected in the love of husband and wife.
Love commits to the good of another.
You will need this commitment to make your
marriage joyful. This commitment will
serve for your blessing. You get to live
together, talk together, and work together.
You get to laugh together, cry together, and to strengthen and encourage
one another in every circumstance of life.
Love is the policy that will uphold you and sustain your union.
This is God’s plan for marriage, and it is good. This is God’s blessing for you, and he is committed to your good.
In the name of the Father and of the Son + and of the Holy
Spirit. Amen.





