Wedding of Dana LeFevre and Evan Petersen (August 7, 2026)

This sermon was preached at the Buhl Estate in Addison Oaks County Park in Leonard, Michigan.

THE LORD BINDS YOU TOGETHER FOR A BLESSED UNION.

ECCLESIASTES 4:9-12

In the name + of Jesus.

     The institution of marriage was designed by God.  It is still God’s plan, and it is still a good idea.  The Lord established marriage when he brought Adam and Eve together and blessed them.  The Scriptures remind us: “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and will remain united to his wife, and they will become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24).  Marriage is a blessed union where two become one—one household, one family.

     When God established marriage, he did it in a world that was still pure and perfect.  Marriage was not something God threw together quickly once sin entered the world.  Holy matrimony was established in a holy world; and God called it good.  It is still good, and it brings tremendous blessings to a man and a woman even in a sinful world.

     King Solomon spoke about the partnership of two people in his book of Ecclesiastes.  If you read through the whole book of Ecclesiastes, you will find that Solomon declared many earthly pursuits to be ultimately meaningless.  Regarding the marital union, however, Solomon found great blessing.  He wrote, “Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their hard work.  If one of them falls, his companion can lift him up.  Pity the person who falls and has no one else to lift him up.  What’s more, if two lie down, they can keep warm, but how can one person keep warm alone?  Though an attacker can overpower one person, two people together can stand up against him” (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12).

     This makes marriage seem quite practical.  And to be sure, there are benefits of joining your resources and your energies.  No longer do you pay twice the rent and twice the utilities.  You will not need to clean two homes and care for two yards.  But marriage is no mere arrangement of convenience.  You are not business partners.  You are not roommates.  Two individuals may pull apart, but a husband and wife are intertwined as one.  The Lord binds you together in a blessed union. 

     Now, the bad news.  Even though you are joined together in a blessed union, you still remain two sinners.  You will discover different opinions, different preferences, and possibly even different priorities.  The devil will use these to try to break up this union.  And the devil is sly enough to use pesky, little things to mount up into resentment and sarcastic zingers.  Right now, you can’t imagine that you will argue about how to fold towels or load a dishwasher.  Of course, engineers tend to think that there is a specific way of doing something, and you may not always agree on what that way is.  These are the things that stoke up self-importance at the expense of your spouse.  Even if you win the argument, the marriage takes the blow.

     If this marital union is nothing more than a business arrangement, you could just dissolve the partnership and look for new roommates.  But that is not the Lord’s design.  Jesus declares, “What God has joined together, let no one separate” (Mark 10:9).  The Lord binds you together in a blessed union, and it is a union that is inseparable and insoluble.  As God designed it, it is a union that is a blessing for both of you.

     To preserve this union between two sinners, the Lord has blessed you even more.  He has bound you to himself.  After considering, “Two are better than one” (Ecclesiastes 4:9), Solomon concludes, “A rope with three strands is not quickly snapped” (Ecclesiastes 4:12).  The Lord takes his own place in your marital union.  He is what truly will keep you bound to one another.  He will sanctify your marriage, protect it, preserve it, and produce peace and joy within it.  That is because the Lord has bound you to himself, and he has bound himself to you. 

     God the Son became a man to unite himself to humanity.  He has made your sins his own.  He was cursed for all our impatience, our self-importance, and our cutting remarks.  His death has paid the price for the sins of the world.  Now he is risen from death and lives and reigns for your good.  By becoming a man, he bound himself to humanity.  When you were baptized, he bound you to himself.  He is yours, and you are his.  This union is blessed above all others.  And “what God has joined together, let no one separate” (Mark 10:9).  

     The Lord Jesus is the Groom, and his Church is his Bride.  To win her for himself, he surrendered his life.  He shed his blood as the dowry.  With his holy, precious blood, he cleansed his Bride to be pure and innocent, free from all fault and flaws.  The Church, in turn, is devoted to her beloved Groom.  Just as she benefits from his love and care, so she willingly submits to him trusting that everything he does is done to exalt her.

     This mystery is reflected in your marriage.  Evan, you are the groom who does all things for the good of your bride—to bless her, to protect her, to provide for her, and to exalt her.  Dana, you are the bride who willingly submits to your husband—trusting that he seeks your good, encouraging him as he cares for you, and exalting him as the head of the house. 

     This is God’s plan for marriage.  It is still God’s plan, and it is still a good idea.  And God blesses this plan by uniting himself to you as he binds you together.  “A rope with three strands is not quickly snapped” (Ecclesiastes 4:12).  This bond will continue to be strengthened as you grow together in Christ.  He will strengthen and keep you in the one, true faith as you hear his words of grace and feast on his body and blood.  As you grow in Christ’s love, you will also increase in love for one another—forgiving one another, encouraging one another, consoling one another, praying with one another and for one another, and giving thanks together for all God’s blessings. 

     God binds you together today.  It is not a partnership for the sake of convenience.  It is a sacred institution which God established for the good of a man and a woman.  And you are doubly blessed, for your union includes the Savior who will be with you in all the ups and downs of life and who will bring you into the wedding feast of heaven.  The Lord brings you together for a blessed union—united to each other for life, and united together in Christ for life everlasting.  “A rope with three strands is not quickly snapped” (Ecclesiastes 4:12).  What God joins together, let no one separate—for it is a most blessed union. 

In the name of the Father and of the Son + and of the Holy Spirit.  Amen.